May is the month that we nationally recognize mothers. In the Old Testament in Exodus 20:12 King James Version (KJV) it states:
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
Also, in the New Testament to honor our mother is reinforced in Ephesians 6:2-3 (KJV):
Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
Now that my husband, Charles, is no longer with us, and our son, Chauncey is, I have to share this tidbit of information with you regarding the movie Lion King as it relates to my family. Oh my goodness, this is such a good movie! Charles and I watched the DVD of this movie quite often, as well as having seen the Broadway play in several different cities throughout the United States over the years.
In the original movie the main characters are the father, Mufasa, and the son, Simba. In this movie Mufasa is killed and Simba runs away. With persuasion from the baboon, Rafiki, Simba realizes that he needs to assume his responsibility as leader of his family and the inhabitants of the African kingdom called Pride Rock. And so Simba returns home.
Countless times Charles and I reminded our son that Mufasa – Charles – would someday be gone, and he – Simba – needed to be prepared to take his place in the family. Of course, Chauncey would always say, “Oh dad, mom, nothing’s going to happen to dad.” Well, as we all know, it did!
I know that my husband was concerned about my well-being should he die before me. I do not know what his final words were to our son, and believe me I have asked him, but I do know they were impactful. Chauncey never left the hospital during the entire time that Charles was in the hospice unit. He worked there. He showered there. He washed his clothes in the laundry there. He ate there. I think that certain passages of scripture related to the events at the crucifixion of Jesus was on Charles’ mind a lot during his final days, as well as our son’s. In particular, when on the cross before dying Jesus made provisions for the most important woman in his life, His mother, Mary. In the Gospel of John 19:25-27 (KJV) the following words of Jesus were recorded.
Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother, and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalene.
When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son!
Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home.
I believe that Charles made provisions for me as did Jesus. In verse 26 above, though Jesus calls his mother “Woman” it did not mean any disrespect, but rather a term of endearment. Going forward, Jesus wanted Mary to seriously look upon John as her son. And he wanted John to look upon Mary as his own mother. From my research it indicated that Mary’s husband, Joseph, was no longer living at this time. Though I found nothing in writing to substantiate Joseph’s death, this made sense as to why Jesus was concerned about who would take care of his mother after he was gone. Jesus committed her care to John, whom he loved; John, who was also one of his disciples; and John, who was standing by. Although currently I do not need to live with our son, Chauncey checks on me every day before bedtime. If he does not call, he sends a text.
In January, 2018, my 94 year old mother died. Prior to her death, all ten of her living children made it to her bedside before her final breath. So she knew each one of her children was there until the end of her life. Also, we rotated throughout the years to stay with mom so that she could remain in her home. Our mother was honored every day of her life. We never disrespected mom, and we made each Mother’s Day memorable throughout her life. Some of us could not afford flowers or gifts each year, but if we called or drove to Decatur, Illinois to be with her, that meant the world to her. I personally enjoyed hearing the joy in her voice when I called or walked through her door!
Something to think about:
Celebrate your mom!
This Mother’s Day, whether you decide to send flowers, call her, or visit her and give a hug, any of those things or any other ways that you chose to acknowledge her are honorable. And as a mother, trust me, I can attest to that.